Some friends of mine, (Filipina+Brit) used to be very active here with a Filipino association and didnt have any such problems. They have now moved to the US and have found the sort of in-fighting you mention.

Other Filipina+Brit friends have found the same thing in some groups here, but not in others.
Thus it would seem to vary in different groups.


I too would have thought that there would be more support than competition, but I guess it takes all sorts.