Hello there Juan,

The guys are right. The fact that you are not fond of her son clearly states that you are in a wrong relationship. She can't be honest to you because it upsets you to know what is going on between her ex and her son. You are not openminded enough to understand their situation. What you need is a woman without a child. If there is a child involve, expect a continous relationship between the woman and the father of her child...it's for the child's sake.

In regards with the Child Support, I'm sorry but you have no right to intervene with whatever decision she makes in regards with that matter. You are not married with her, you are just the boyfriend. Even if you are married with her, you still can't have the rights to erase the father in their lives. You may be thinking that because she's dating you, she should mold her life according to whatever suits you. Guess what, even if she's living with you but not married, she has no security with you yet. She has to do whatever she must do for her child and for herself. Without the marriage contract you can't expect anyone to be ONE with you, especially someone with a child. If you can't tolerate the child, then you only love half of her. Because she and her son are one. Mothers care for their children more than themselves. I'm sure that she can feel your resentment towards her son, I am also sure that it hurts her a lot.

As I've said, you are in a wrong relationship if you can't accept the fact of life you've chosen.
Short N Brown
Tagapamagitan